Zelia,
you are very precious, and a good kind person. You are on the right track, because this is my strategy, and I am trying to get my doctor to talk to my husband about what is going on.
The roadblock at the present time happens to be that my husband uses the line "well I have pain too.". Well so does everyone else when they overuse their muscles. If I say to him "you need to exercise so that your muscles support you, I get a tongue lashing". If I remind him that he needs to lose weight to take the pressure off his knee (he has arthritis in the knee), well I get some hideous retort about my own weight, and quite often that retort will come at a time when I have lost some weight.
I will be attempting to follow your advice, because it is spot on to what I have been trying to achieve to get him to understand. I was so glad when he went back to work after Christmas, but now when he comes home he continues to be cranky, accusing me of yelling when I cannot answer his questions. I get so tired of the questions which I cannot answer.
I love my husband, and I do not know why he cannot understand what is happening. He just continues to have it in his mind that I am a hypochondriac. Take for example, the news I had from my ultrasound. I do not know everything, such as the fibroids are still there, but the other problem has cleared. His comment seemed to be that the ultrasound was a waste of time. He cannot see that on the contrary, it was necessary because at my age, and with that condition, if it had not cleared, then the chances of getting cancer in the uterus are that much higher. He has no real concept of what is happening due to menopause.
He had a skin cancer on his nose, and ever since that scare he has had this attitude that is just too hard to fathom. Also I fear that he tells tales to his friends and that some of them have offered some very bad advice because they do not know or understand the nature of my problem.
It is true, my house is untidy, but I do try to clean thing up, and then my back begins to hurt and I cannot go any further. That is the real problem but he does not comprehend it.
Maggie
