Ok guys, all of you who told her the scars will disappear are full of hooey, Cindy's had like 14 knee replacements and she KNOWS how her skin does with surgery scarring. Come on, guys, don't insult her intelligence. Some people's scars heal well (Cody's skin heals freakishly well, even his surgery scars are gone) and others don't. What I think we should all be telling Cindy is how flippin COOL those scars are, because they mark her as a Survivor and will make for one heckuva great convo starter. And there's Mederma OTC, and then I keep seeing ads for some special not-in-stores stuff, I can't remember the name but here's the phone number for the Risk-Free Trial, 800-500-9957. It's being advertised for stretch marks now but started as a scar treatment (same diff, I think). Also, Avon has a couple of stretch mark treatments, I tried the mid-price one in the purple bottle and it WORKED, on my stretch marks and my surgery scars (on my tummy, they're neighbors). Didn't erase them but helped a ton. And i'm one of the people who still has scars from scraping her knees at age 4. Total opposite of Cody. Funny, since I'm the one who thinks scars are attractive on men, and wouldn't be upset at all if all of his horse-breaking-motocross-racing-bar-fighting-football-playing-and-going-through-a-windshield scars were still visible . . . lol.
I know scars are very disheartening for a woman, especially at first, when you're not used to seeing them AND they're at their puffy purplish worst. But they do fade, at least partly, and we get more used to them, and honestly - what better scars to be proud of than cancer survivor scars? I think, when you're feeling more comfy with them, you should wear them proudly. How do you feel about tattoos? I've seen some really awesome creative scar tattoos . . . vines, or snakes, or lizards, they all have long-thin shapes to decorate surgery slices. And Molly's got a good idea about the scarf/shawl thing too. I wore one at a friend's wedding to cover my tattoo as part of the wedding party. (she's got uptight parents)
Anyway, Cindy honey, try to focus on the lack-of-cancer on your neck now, instead of the presence-of-scars. I've never seen an attractive-looking skin cancer anyway, have you? They're usually pretty gross. Black and scabby, some have hairs growing out of them . . . ick. Do you mind if I ask what kinds they were? I take an interest in skin cancer, since I live in the skin-cancer capitol of the northern hemisphere and I'm allergic to sunscreen and two relatives have died of it recently. BUT! I found one last year I'm not allergic to!! it's pricey but I'm religious about it. 25 is very old to be starting, but better late than never.
Hugs,
Bridget
(proudly bearing scars from only 3 surgeries so far. And pregnancy, that counts in my book.)
