Rumble, I'm shocked. This is waaay too much for one little person to handle - and I know I've been out of it for awhile, but I'm so sorry to hear of your hubby's dx as well!
Just going to throw out random ideas, and please forgive me if they're dumb - I realize this might be like throwing a pail of water on a house fire, but what about muscle relaxants or massage, gabapentin (neurontin), loads more prednisone (prob not the best idea considering you're already fighting a dandy of an infection), steroid injections, stronger opioids, TENS unit... wish I had some really good ideas, but I'm afraid I can't really think of much, I'm sorry.
I'm thinking you could be on something stronger than oxycodone though. I know docs are hesitant to rx strong stuff, but given the amount of pain you're in, I think it's warranted. You can't be sleeping all that well... can you get something to help you sleep at least? I know it won't help the physical probs, but might help a tiny bit with the pain? Wishful thinking, perhaps.
Hope you can talk your doc into something stronger. Just sounds like sooo much you're dealing with.
lots of hugs
