Jan one of the things we think helps iritis is LDN(low dose naltrexone). Drizzit didn't get it once while on LDN for 2 years, then went off and BAM, another flare. Then he went back on and it got better. Is that an option for you?
I've been on LDN for a little over a year now and have never had iritis (knocking on wood, crossing fingers and toes).
Hugs to you, this is a really stressful time. One thing that helps keep my schedule under control is using a calendar/day planner and then when someone asks me to do something I pull it out, look at it and say "oh gosh, sorry I'm booked." It's kind of like blaming it on the calendar, lol, not ME!
You're an awesome woman to keep up with all that you are.
Soft hugs,
Donette