when a close family member dies, we are so consumed with our own grief, that we really aren't thinking of much else. as mig said, usually its other family members and/or friends that spread the word. and sometimes someone can accidentally not get the message.

i think the phone message was a good first step. if it were me, i'd put myself in that friend's shoes, and continue to reach out to the friend. i'd send a sympathy card, and in that card, let the friend know if there is anything that i could do, to please let me know. then as was suggested, people always appreciate someone cooking something for them. and when some time has passed, contact the friend again to see how she/he is doing.

to me, this is an opportunity to be a good friend to your friend in their time of need.

Last edited by Sue22; 04/07/12 09:26 PM.

sue

Spondyloarthropathy, HLAB27 negative
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