Kickas.org Forums Ankylosing Spondylitis General Discussion #1 AS Web Support Group it never rains but it pours!

hi
i am finding myself sat here again wondering just which way to turn next. sorry i guess this ones gonna b a bit of a vent.
i guess it all started when i found at the beginning of the wek my youngest son has chickenpox, (bless him) the poor lad is so upset and theres nothing i can seem to do to make him better, i try putting calamine on him and thats a struggle cus he says it hurts, he wont get into a bath either, he is so upset he wont even let his brother see his spots, and they do everything together. its so upsetting seein him so upset and unhappy, and the bad news is my other son has got this come.
due to this i am off work, i do not begrudge the reasons at all, my children need me, but its put an extra strain on me as this tightens the finances, especially when i need to pay back a loan for the new car.
i do understand that to some all of this is nothing, theres some a lot worse off than me, and my blessings go to those.
like that wasnt enough for me tho, i already have 1 cat (out of 6) that requires an operation (i am savin up for it, as i have been told its £160) then this week, one of my others falls ill (sorry bout this but my cats r like my babies) causing yet more expense i cant afford especially with not bein at work this week, and i have to keep my fingers crossed its not cat flu, cus 2 of my other will get it (more expense)
and.... an ex boyfriend giving me grief, as he wont let go, one of the reasons things went wrong was his lying to me, i wish this all finished there, but i am also in excrutiating pain just about everywhere again as i have picked up as virus, (well i think it is) it feels like bad flu, a cold and sneezing and now my eyes r itching, i really dont feel well at all. it just seems to me that everything happens all at once! and i'm not finding it very easy doin it all by myself!
sorry for goin on a bit, i just really needed someone to talk to.
take care
heather

Hi,Heather You sure have your plate full, I have two little ones 2and 5 my son has some weird rash calle d Henoch schilin purpura and my wife just took my daughter to the ER for a cut she sustained while jumping on the bed as I recover from back surgery. The point is I know you can not keep from worrying about your children but they are so able to bounce that you can't imagine.Thins will be better Dave

Hi Heather,

I sure can relate. I'm dealing with a lot myself, incuding pet problems.

My dog was in the vet all this weekend. I'm trying desperately to find a home for a stray I picked up before my surgery. She's too hyper to take care of and one of my dogs doesn't care for her. It's got to where I can't keep them in the same room.

I have had a cold or flu 3 times since October and working on a 4th.

I'm sure thankful I don't have to worry about kids in addition to everything else. I wish I could give you some advice on the chicken pox. I remember having it myself as a child. My mom purposely sent me to my grandmothers to get it I think. My grandmother wasn't the best at taking care of me from what I remember though. I don't remember getting a bath or anything though I can't imagine that I didn't. I have some pretty deep scars from having it though. When my two sisters and brother all got chicken pox at the same time I remember seeing them all in the window as I rode past in the school bus. All 3 wearing socks and their hands. I can't remember what my mom used on their chicken pox. I want to say that some use baking soda in the bathwater but of course you say he won't even go in there. I can't blame him for being grumpy. Is there anything he really likes that might change his mind. I can't remember calamine hurting. My mom put it on me for my mosquito bites that really swelled up and itched. I always wanted it because the coolness made it feel better and it was pink lol. Hope you get some good advice for chicken pox soon.

Just wanted you to know you aren't alone with your strain of bad luck lately. >:D<

Sharon

Hi Heather,

I am sorry you are going thru all of this, I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone.

I would imagine all of us are going thru one thing or another, I am having alot of problems in one area of my life right now.

Just know, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers,

Lisa

hi
thanks maggie
as my son has the chickenpox in his mouth in his ears and on his eyelids (places where calalmine dont reach) he might offer me a few more suggestions than, bonjela for the mouth and baking sda for the bath - maybe i am bein an over protective mum here. if u find out what the coal based product is , let me know i have this to go thru yet again with my other son.
i am sorry to hear u r still havin probs with ur husband, i do recall the father of my kids bein a little like this when i was with him, e.g he went off somewhere in the car after i had a dr appointment cus i really wasnt well, coughing up blood and struggling to breathe, had to push my 3 yr son to dr in his pram up very steep hills.dr admitted me straight to hospital (prob bein i had to take my son home and tell my ex what was happening and get him to take me to the hospital) it was actually a blood clot causing this. even after 2 days in hospital on blood thinners he kicked up such a fuss to get me out of there - why? - this was because he was havin to look after our 2 sons and the housework needed doin - a whopping pile of washing) and he wanted to b doin other things. i therefore sympathise with ur situation, i wish i knew some advice for u, but after hours of talking and explaining, even shouting, he still couldnt understand he done anything wrong. he had to prolapsed discs in his back, but expected mr to run around looking after out 2 sons at that time who were very young, look after him, and the house, while still having all the probs AS causes. our 8 year long relationship actually ended cus i had AS and couldnt give him what he wanted, so he kicked me and the kids out the house at xmas time and moved in one of his many (younger, non AS) girlfriends in. what i am trying to say is yes i know how u feel but even tho i tried everything i could, my efforts didnt work, so i really dont know what the answer is. i wish u all the best of luck with ur husband, and hope he comes round to ur AS very soon.
take care
heather

Hang in there Heather!
It's gotta get better sometime! I can't rememer the name of the product, but what helped my kids when they got Chicken Pox was this "oatmeal" like pouder that we put in the bath. Maybe somebody else knows the excact name, but it it helped a lot!! Maybe you can find it by you. Good luck with everything else. Remember, you have to take care of yourself first, otherwise you won't be able to take care of those precious kids (and cats) of yours! And remember, your in my thoughts!

Good heavens, Heather, you are having a tough week. Between human babies and feline babies, you are being run ragged, aren't you. That would surely explain the elevation in your pain levels. Stress plays such a huge factor in this for us. Treat yourself with extra TLC, OK?

I wonder if Milk Bath from The Body Shop would help ease your little one's chicken pox itches.

Hugs,

hi
thanks dave
i sure hope things start lookin up again soon! like i say i know theres some havin a lot rougher time than me, blessings to u, hope things get better for u soon.
its just a lot to get thru by urself!
take care
heather

Hi Heather....
Wow...what to say...that just sucks in the biggest way possible! That's so much to handle; I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I really just want to reach through the screen and give you a hug (and your kitties and kiddies) - not much I can do, I know. But I'm thinking of you and hoping things improve quickly.
Hugs