Kickas.org Forums Ankylosing Spondylitis General Discussion #1 AS Web Support Group Most lovely Christmas Present

December 2006 applied for disabillity. March 2007 I was accepted because of my health issues. You don't get disability unless there is actually severe health issues going on.

My son Chris who was giving me the most lovely Christmas, turned to me and said to me today, I am faking all my health issues.

In pain I lifted my granddauther. In pain I slept on a cot each night, without any pain meds. I finished my antibiotic for UTI, 1 of 2 I can take because of allergies. (Macrobid)

Figuring my liver enzymes were going to be sky high anyway, and having taken the last of Macrobid the day before, I had a Christmas drink (Bailey's Irish Cream). Which I know I am not to have, but I was feeling so down, because of my other son (Jason) I figured what the heck. Because of that my son(Chris) says there is nothing wrong with me. That I should get off my A$$ and get a job.

I am sitting here in tears. I can't believe what my life has become over the past two years. It has spiraled to h$ll.

I wish I was no longer here, I wish I was dead. I have been disowned by my sons, have no family. Last year my sister said if she had my health issues, she would kill herself.

Why am I here??? Why do I have to take this ongoing abuse??? I don't understand.

If it wasn't for my KickAS family, I have no one.

Gerri

Gerri, I'm so sorry you had to hear such insensitive comments from your sons - you are not responsible for their ignorance.

At this most dark moment in your life, I offer you a cyber hug Hang in there, you are needed and loved.

I will pray for you...

OH Gerri
What a terrible thing for your son to say. You know what you're going through and sometimes denial from those close to you is so hard to bear. You're not alone. Everyone here knows what you are going through. Things can get better. I hope the new year throws you some light through all the darkness. Take care!

Hi Gerri,

The next time I'm in Ontario I think I'll stop in and have a little "discussion" with your sons. Of course you have your KickAS family, but someone needs to set your sons straight. I only wish it could be me. Oh well.

I think all of us have asked the question, "Why am I here?" and I believe only God can answer that one for us. All we can do is stick it out, as difficult as that might be. You are such a comfort to all of us Gerri, don't give up on us now.

Dean

So Gerri....you had a little drink and because of that your son says you are faking it. He knows nothing. I'm so sorry this happened to you. No one should ever take abuse. Been there done that and will never go there again.
Love you girl....

Sherri

Gerri,
I am so sorry about your son's insensitivity. I don't know why it is that our own families are the people least likely to be supportive and understanding of us, but it is all too often true.

Please keep fighting and keep trying no matter what your familiy is doing. You are worth it.

Karen

Hi Gerri: I read a quote today, "A child needs your love most when he deserves it least."-Erma bombeck. I thank you for all the support you have offered on kickAS...Tom

I'm not sure what ever happened to "honor your father and mother". I'm terribly sorry to learn of these events and such hurtful words. Like another kicker mentioned, somebody needs to "straighten these two out".

Hang in there. Just because your family treats you so poorly, doesn't mean that you should treat yourself poorly. Be good to yourself when no one else will. Sending strength and prayers your way.

Sorry to hear the family situation Gerri. They obviously have not walked a mile in your shoes with comments such as that.

Remember that your Kickas family always loves you and come here if no where else to receive at times.

Wishing you much happiness in the new year.

Tim

gerri aloha

well...i'd say another bailey's irish cream is in order...what the heck.

steve has a friend, bruno, he ought to call on your sons...i've been given to understand that bruno is quite
forcefull at bringing basic human values and empathy to those lacking same...his strong arm tactics may be
a little -avert your eyes- brutal, but it'll put the fear of god (or bruno) in 'em.

i know many of us have 'former' family...it's no loss if there's nothing there to begin with...you don't have to take it.
always thought i'd be dead by fifty...hoped...didn't happen...some things ya just can't explain.
that downward spiral is like jumping without a parachutte, all in slow motion; and no one knows the things
you see and feel and hear ...there is no recompense... a former xxxxxx of mine called it 'divine retribution'
there is no reason...there is no answer
that's why KA is important to me, you're not alone.
take courage and strength from the knowing that you are a good and decent, caring person.
um...virtues they seem lacking.
all the best