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Dear Icky.
I'm so sorry you've been feeling so much pain lately, I truly hope the break you need is just around the corner, or perhaps it arrived after sharing your worries and fears.

I admire your tears and your strength....the strength you've used to reach out to others....tears are good, tears are healing.

I'm so glad for MSN, and Icky you've made me think....I often see peoples names on MSN but don't say HI, perhaps because I'm a little shy, perhaps I think people don't want to be bothered, but then I began to wonder if some of those names on MSN were on because they NEEDED to chat.....so from now on...I'll be saying hi to alot more of you out there......Icky you made me realise I should

I hope you got a good nights sleep and when you wake up it's a better day for you....

Take care
Jackie

Fairies are invisible and inaudible like angels, but their magic sparkles in nature.

Icky never be fritghtened to cry when you need to,it is not a sign of weakness it should have shown the Doctor how much pain you are in.Crying can release stress and lower the pain levels, we all love you on this site and your ready to cheer us up and crack inane jokes on the jocke forum to make us laugh, Cyber [[[[[[hugs]]]]] LUV Elspeth.

hey ray,
cheers to you for hitting the Continue button!
pain is absolutely mind-altering, as we all have endured at some point. it brings tears to even those who can withstand the goliaths of the world, it brings giants down to their knees. it's a bigger man to admit it & share it!
we all support you!
-miss jess

Things do not change, we change. Henry David Thoreau

Never feel bad about being human, it is so much healthier to cry and share your feelings than to bottle it up inside and turn the pain inwards, which so often results in depression and anger. We just came back from a family cruise and the third day into it I once again discovered the limitations that define this illness when most of the family went off to snorkle and I couldn't join them - - because I had made the mistake of thinking I could actually wear high heels on dress up night the night before and ended up having to use my cane the next day - - in Mexico - - and found it impossible to cane my way through the sand on the beach so had to pass it up, and I had been so looking forward to going. Yup, I cried.

((((hugs))))

Cheryl

Dogs believe in long term relationships

Hi, Icky,

I'm glad you shared with us. The pain of AS is something that few understand, but you've got a whole lot of us here that do. I'm glad Debbie was there for you, she really is an angel in disguise. KickAS is a better place because she is here. I was hoping that the "burn itself out" theory was true, but I know deep inside I know it isn't. I pray that this flare does not last long for you, and that your doctor will be able to help you. And whatever happens, come here. KickAS is a support site first and foremost, and we are happy to listen, help, understand, support.

This message comes with love, prayers, and good wishes to one of the nicest people I know. Hope you're feeling better soon.

Hugs,

Cindy

Hi Ray, There is alot of respect here for you. I'm glad you chose to post about your emotions. I'm sure there are other people that may be encouraged to talk more about their feelings by reading your post. That's what we are here for. I hope you get some relief for your pain soon.
Take Care........Hope

Hi Ray,
I don't know why you weren't sure about posting that, but I'm very glad you did.

Neither do I know how many of us have held the pain at arms length for such a long time that eventually something had to give and tears began to flow.

I do know, however that we are both among that number. It's something to do with having to describe the pain which makes it the absolute focus of our attention, so no attempt to ignore it or parcel it away in a corner of your consciousness can hold firm.

Another thing I know is that we're all here for each other, and in fact that why we're here most of the time. Thanks for sharing :) I wish you and everyone suffering like you much better times ahead.

  Loz


  "Here comes the sun..."

Hi Ray,

I was all set to give you the "guy lecture" but then I realized that we all hold in our feelings. I hate to admit I don't feel like doing things I used to, I hate to be a whiner at home, I'm afraid my patient hubby will tire of me complaining, but if you don't let it out, how will anyone EVER know how we really feel.
On a lighter note, I bet your dr. sat up and paid attention. We are so stoic in the office sometimes, even they probably think we're not too bad off. We have all hit that spot, believe me. One morning after a couple of back spasm days, I felt a bit better and thought I would water my flowers. My husband walked out just as I was picking up an empty hose and said what are you doing!! It's just a hose I said but started to cry because it hurt so much to pick up a stupid not even too heavy hose.
I felt like such an idiot, and useless.........
But I got over it and he wantered the flowers, it all worked out

Take care and be good to yourself, I'm glad you had someone to talk to and after all this time here helping all of us out, I'm glad you felt you could come to us

much love,
linda

Dear Icky, I am really sorry you are going through such a rough time , but I do know a good cry is good for the soul...I should know I do it frequently when I have a bad day...sometimes just sit in my recliner and let the tears flow while waiting for the pain med to kick in. You are a inspiration to all of us...you take care of you...hugs, DC

Ray,

What more can I say that everybody hasn't already said? I admire you even more for admitting to how human you are. Thank goodness for this place and finding such good friends and support such as you did in Deb (Deb, you are awesome!)... If I didn't have my friends here at KickAS to vent to I think I would go crazy! Nobody understands this disease like a fellow ASer.

Continue being real and let those tears flow.It is so healing.

My thoughts and prayers are with you through this tough time. Many HUGS my friend!

Peace and comfort to you,
Cristina