Hi Lisa
I so know what you and your son Eric are going through.
My husband's ex-wife put us through living h$ll. She even went as far to allege false accusations. All was proven unfounded. For many years she kept the children from visiting with their father. The judge seen this. He also took note of the fact my DH wasn't making very much money. He told my DH that he didn't have to pay support. For five years we had been tangled up in the court system.
DH never missed telling his son and daughter, at Christmas, any special occasion, or when he just wanted to talk to them, how much he loved them. They are now in there 20s and now are very close with their father.
Can we forgive his ex-wife, I believe we have, we will just never forget and always will be on guard.
I am hoping the judge will see what your son's ex-wife is all about, and will side with your son. Getting all financial records together will help towards making everthing right for your son.
I love the pictures of your handsome grandsons.
Hugs
Gerri