first, know that we all know exactly what you are dealing with and that you can always come here and vent about it to an understanding crowd
i wish there were some magic formula, but its tricky. on the one hand, it would be so easy to just write them off. i do try to make a point of not spending time, communicating with, anyone who is not good for me. but if they are family and we love them, that's not so simple.
though my family hasn't always understood why i can't travel and mom has given me the pep talk, "if you just think happy thoughts......." but no one has been as mean as you describe.
its a hard decision to make, getting rid of people in our lives that are not good for us. i've done it with a few "friends", but family would be hard. i definitely wouldn't spend time with anyone who wasn't good for me. a simple time out sometimes does wonders.
i have come to not care too much what others think. and i've stopped trying to explain myself so much.
i figure so long as i have a good relationship with my husband, that's the relationship that matters the most, as he's the one i share my day to day life with. if he didn't understand, that would be intolerable for me.
focus on the people in your life that are good for you. the others will either come around and be a part of your life, or they won't, and they'll miss the company of an awesome person!
