Kickas.org Forums Ankylosing Spondylitis General Discussion #1 AS Web Support Group The time came and he went.

Alan,

I am so sorry for your loss. But, as you said, the suffering is over now. I'm not very good with words for these types of situations...so I will just say that you and your family are in my prayers...

Hugs,
Trina (another Canuck)

Alan I wish you and your parents all strength to cope with this. I must say that I was very touched by your description of your brother in the former post and could feel the love you all felt for him.
Gerard

Alan,

I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Although I haven't been around these last few days, I was fairly certain that Pual had passed. Just a feeling I guess. I'm sorry that we didn't get a chance to meet up, and that I couldn't give you all these real hugs on behalf of all of those who love you here at KA, but I say I've been swamped would be an understatement. I do look forward to meeting up some day.

Something I've often heard said, and have further learned from my own experiences is there's no 'right' way to grieve. We all do it differently, in our own time. And grieving doesn't end with the memorial service, so don't let anyone make you think you should 'be over it' any time before you're ready. Dealing with grief can be a life-long process for some and take years for many.

Comfort comes to us in mysterious ways sometimes, and spending a lot of money is not an uncommon source of comfort in these difficult times. In all the work I've done it palliative care (and again with my own personal and family experiences), it's not uncommon for people to make big new purchases at times like these. When Devon died, his parents changed their car.

Just wanted to say that even though I haven't been around these last few days, you've been on my mind often. I've had to force myself to stop working and go for bathroom breaks this week. Next week I'm working up to making sure I eat from time to time. Ah, the wonderful early days of junior doctorship.

All our love and most comforting thoughts to you and yours.
Jeanna (& Loz)

Alan,

I saw your post... and wanted to express my deepest sympathy for the loss of your brother...I hope with time...when that pain has eased...that you and all who loved him...will smile again in your hearts with the beautiful memories of a lifetime shared...

I wish you all peace
Kathy

Alan,
I just wanted to say that I am so so sorry to hear of your brother Paul's passing..

Please know that you will be in my family's thoughts and prayers..

I think we all handle a loss differently and as odd as it may feel it is normal. When my cousin passed this past January I went out with my children to the playground, to eat and out and about. I dont know why I was out all day but it was the best thing for me to do at the time.

Take care friend...

Sorry to hear about your brother.

Take care.
Cara

Thanks you 2. I have been in France for a while, hence the tardy response. You have all been so very thoughtful and kind. When I wake up I shall reply to all, in the meantime, have you worked out the corridor mileage at the city yet...X


Thnks to everyone.


Alan G

Only caught this news today Alan - so very sorry to learn of the death of your brother. A sad time for you and for all your family. Please accept my sincere condolences -

Molly