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Thanks Janet. It means a lot.

Warm hugs,

Kat,

I am so sorry you and your family are dealing with this. Thank goodness your nieces have relatives to turn to in all this!

I was in a live-in relationship with a mentally disturbed man for 4 years. From the inside, you learn that the easiest way to survive is to humor their delusions. From them, it's just a short step to believing the altered reality yourself. I honestly did not realize how bad the situation was until I was out of the relationship and looking back at the abuse my children and I endured. Two years later, I'm still finding out things that he did to my kids that I was clueless about at the time. I never would have had the strength to leave him if it hadn't been for a good group of friends willing to give me a ton of emotional support while I was getting my head on straight.

The best thing you can do for your sister is to be there for her. Do everything you can to keep her away from the psycho, listen to her as she works through discovering the difference between reality and where she's been living, and keep her from blaming herself for the whole situation.

You have my prayers in getting through this, hon.

Molly, thank you.

The doctors say it's possible she could have done this to herself. My sweetie and I are worried that she was pushed to it, but we weren't there. We'll never really know the truth and sadly, because of that our imaginations have come up with several possible scenarios, including the one you mention. I didn't know there was any such thing as what the doctors are calling a spontaneous attempt. Now I do. I'm calling my sister this morning to see how she's doing. And I have a call in to the local provincial police detachment to see about getting the reports (EMS and police) about the 911 call, to ease our own minds as to the sequence of events, if for no other reason.

My nieces are staying with my mother for the time being. They've made it clear that they do not want to live with the boyfriend if he is not accepting treatment. We'll have to play that by ear.

Warm hugs,

Just as you and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.

The girls know how very much they are loved and cherished by all of us. If this is truly a case of domestic abuse we will have to tread carefully with my sister. Right now, she's in treatment and responding well. Don't want to upset the apple cart at the mo. We'll see what happens over the next few weeks.

You're sweet to worry about me and my family right now with all that's going on in your life.

Warm hugs,

Kat, I am so sorry this is happening to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. We love you!

Kat, as you can see we are all sending our love and strength to you and your family. I was thinking about you last night sending you some prayers... Keep the strength !!!


Angie

Thanks, Wendy.

The split lip had us all concerned. She thinks she bit it, but would the wound be triangular? We don't know, so we're trying to calm down about it.

I'm looking into why he was released after being deemed mentally unable to make his own treatment decisions, but my mother was told that it's because it happened here in Toronto. Not enough beds, you see, since the last government made such horrendous cuts to funding and the current government hasn't bothered to fix it. Mum was told that had the tribunal occurred at any hospital outside the Toronto area, he would have been held until the appeal because the patient load is smaller so more beds are available. I spoke to a woman at the ministry office that handles these things and she told me it's entirely up to the hospital. There is no set rule.

It's beyond me, frankly. I mean, if you're deemed mentally unable to make your own treatment decisions, that doesn't change just because you're appealing it. Given the potential danger to the patient, not to mention (in extreme cases) the general public, you'd think they'd want to keep the patient in until the appeal is won at least. You know?

My sister has improved over the last day or so, and that's really all that matters right now.

Warm hugs,

wowowow...Kat

you've left me speechless.

all my best
pu liki mau

Kat,
I am unable to read all of the posts, I hope things are improving by now?
Things do not get better with time, they do not just work out. It takes strong men and omoen to do the right thing when it is necessary. May God give you both strength and wisdom to protect those precious kids.
Lin and I will take them for a while.... lol Your sis needs to realize they are her priority...
Stay the course, keep the faith and be strong. Love is doing the right thing, even when it is uncomfotable, eh? Amazing how us gimps are often the care givers for others..
Love ya, girl.
Lon

Thank you, Freddie.

Warm hugs,