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So glad that the minor girls are getting a safe place to live. Your sister/their mom will have a little more reason to get her life in order now. Most of my worry was that the girls were in a potentially unsafe situation. Your sister should be happy that you and your mom are watching out for them. She probably ISN'T thinking that now, but will be when she gets her issues straightened out. Hugs to you for what will be several weeks of stress.

Oh Kat... classic symptoms, omg, I have been there. She doesn't know and probably does think she's completely dependent on him. It is so hard for us to see how an intelligent funny caring woman can think she doesn't have any other options.... you must understand how total that is.
Lot's of love, you can't run out of it so take it all,
CC

Kat, I watched one of my sisters go through a very similar situation...it got so bad that she had a nervous breakdown and had to be hospitalized for about 2 months...we spoke to her doctor and explained the depth of co-dependency in their relationship and the doctor ordered that my sister's boyfriend was barred from seeing her during that time....after about a month he came to us on his knees begging for us to let him see her, we told him no and we told him why....we also told him that we woulden't let him near her until he got treatment as well....that was 22 years ago...they both finished treatment and have been happily married for 21 years now....although my sister won't admit it, I think there was some physical abuse involved, fueled on by his drinking but he hasn't had a drop of alcohol since and things are fine, he still is a little anti-social at times but we force hugs on him at family functions and we make him talk to us....when they first met, I noticed that at family dinners, he ALWAYS got his plate first, before the children and before my Mother, I forbid that too but when I saw him treating her that way, I knew he was controlling her and showing us his dominance over her, that's a bad sign....Mom was the best at pulling him out of his shell and kind of keeping an eye on things, so I'm a little worried about what will happen now that she's gone but in any case, I hope that things work out for the very best in your sister's situation, it's not often that things turn out the way they did for my sister and I'm very thankful that it went that way, because it was just so difficult to see her go through all of that. You just hang in there, your sister is very lucky to have you....