Dear Sharon:

Thank you for your very thoughtful post. There were many wise words to heed in there. For example:
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You also both can obviously communicate well with each other too. So many good things going for your relationship already! You are both very lucky to have found each other.


So so true! When people turn their noses up at internet relationships, that's one of the things I mention passionately. I think Loz and I have spoken more in these four years than I have with most people in a lifetime of knowing them. We made it such a priority to stay in touch daily, and didn't have the luxury of being together for mundane daily tasks, or to 'date' in the normal sense of the word. All we had were two computers, and in later years telephones, and time to chat. And believe me, we KNOW how lucky we are. And don't even let me get started on how wonderful it is to be with someone who really understands your disease! So very precious!

You also made some very good suggestions - in particular, about not letting money get in the way of visiting home, and that all the changes that are going to happen were going to happen regardless of where I lived. Making the comparison of seeing it in baby steps instead of giant leaps really hit home, and while it's not exactly comforting in any conventional way, it's nice to have an idea of what I'm dealing with (devil you know instead of the one you don't and all that)...

Thanks again for taking the time to write, and for your wisdom. And I promise your threats, however unserious, were completely unfounded. I'm so lucky to have such a great guy.

Hugs,
Jeanna