I told our youngest daughter who was the one of our three to end up with all of the pain, etc. that I was so sorry that she inherited that from me and that I feel so guilty.
She said, "Mom, forget that nonsense right now. Don't you think that I had rather be here and get a chance at life rather than never having been born at all." I will never forget that. She also told me that it was much harder on me than her because I had to break the ground and that she had learned how to live with it by watching me all of these years and that she is doing just fine.
I know your sons must feel the same way. I think they had rather be here in pain than not be here. I do understand your feelings as a Mom.
I would take any pain to keep one our daughters, sons-in-law or grands from having it. One s-i-l has AS and is on some of the big gun meds. He did a triathlon last summer and usually does a Marathon every year. He was here this weekend from FL and was in such a big way. He has not let it slow him down. He has lived with it most of his life. He had kidney failure as a child and was on steroids for a long time and then went into this stuff.
Your sons can have a good life and I am sure they will with a loving Mom like you.
I will be thinking of you.
Hugs.
Possi
