Wow, what a tough question! It is too late for me; we've already had our kids. I suspect I've passed it on to our son (he is 10), not sure about our daughters (they are 12).
When our son was about 4 months old, he got really sick for about 9 months. After a ton of tests and doctors visits, we were eventually told by a pediatric rheumatologist that it was likely a virus that looked like arthritis (his joints would swell at night and he would cry for hours, yet he was the world's happiest baby when he was up and moving). Eventually it went away.
I can't imagine life without my kids. I love them so much. My only hope is that we know so much more now that if he has it, we will recognize it sooner before it does much damage. (My grandmother was blind, and as I look back I am more and more convinced that it was caused by Iritis. If she had had treatment, she would have led a very different life.)
Marcat (Mary)
