It's not being "lax", it's the learning process. If you screw up enough you can REALLY motivate yourself to stick with it.
Screw up enough and you might find yourself looking forward to a fruit fast.
Are you taking your supplements, and taking them every day? I lay mine out a week's worth at a time on the counter in little cap cups. Morning and evening. If I don't take the calc./mag and multis for the B vitamins, all heck breaks loose in the cravings department. Sometimes I think I'm too tired, so I just MAKE myself take them before dinner instead of bedtime, for instance, but this has to be one thing that I do.
Started eating some vegetables with the first meal of the day, that helped too.
I'm having such physical stress right now I'm afraid what would happen if I DID screw up too badly. Scary. I don't want to go there. I don't like that life.
Now I may have small flares but I know I'll come out of them all on my own. That's a huge difference, letting the body heal itself.
44 hormonally and being a female can be a real rollercoaster of a ride, too. Sometimes you have to do some herbal things to get that situation sort of under control again.
Make sure you keep one special thing around for treats. I found some dried cranberries without the sunflower oil(which I seem to not do well with) at the store and it's like manna from heaven.
There are certain times of the year for everyone where they get into a bit of a funk because of past events in their lives, and they don't even realize they are doing it, and they will even try to mess things up a bit so they have a reason to feel bad. So maybe you want to do a little bit of introspection about what has happened at this time of year, and see if it's the anniversary of something. My husband does this like clockwork at several times of the year, and it frankly makes me want to scream sometimes, because he doesn't even realize he's doing it.
Good luck and all the best wishes in the world.