like it's been posted by several here... nobody knows the outcome of the gene pool. I have a daughter born with a genetic defect and she will probably never have children of her own... was it my fault? I highly suspect something I did during pregnancy caused it and caused issues will some other children.. but I cannot change the past. I can only deal with what is in my life now. I'm glad I was born. I'm glad my kids are born.

It makes me sad to hear of many people not having kids because of a 'gene' that might be passed on. Who are we to determine who gets life or not? I am still a blessing inspite of my disease. My daughter is still a blessing inspite of her problems and challenges. Nobody is perfect. That's how the cards fall sometimes. I can blame my parents for being crappy parents, but in reality, HOW I choose to live my life is up to me... not them.

Yes, they gave me Spondy... I can be mad or I can just deal with it and live the best life I can. I hope to pass that attitude on to my kids should any of them develop any kind of health issues.

One of my friends had 4 kids... first son was mentally behind for some reason. 2nd son was born with cystic fibrosis (and later developed severe autism and had to be given up).
they did testing and found out both parents carried the cystic fibrosis gene that 100% would pass on to all daughters. her 3rd son was born normal and .. they had a 4th child and she was a daughter with CF and they knew before even trying to concieve and are soo happy to have her in their life. Sadly, they have lost one child with the autism and they know they will lose 2 more children eventually to the CF. But they take each day as a blessing.


sorry if this sounds like I am mad... I am not...

~ Trudi: homeschooling mom to 6: 16,14,11,9,7, 6 mos