Hi Gerr, I didn't see this yesterday or I would have responded. Thank you so much.
Several of you have voiced the fear that my mother, my sweetie, my stepdad and I have. We have no way of knowing exactly how this happened. Mum saw her yesterday and the doctors at the facility have said that they feel this was a spontaneous attempt - ie. there was no thought, just the desire and the action. It's possible, I suppose, especially given what they suspect is an underlying condition. Certainly, they are helping her to understand a lot of what she's experienced throughout her life, and she's happy to be where she is right now, because she recognizes she needs help. Except she's bored stupid. We're working on that. Regardless, they suspect they know what's been going on with my sister, but need to confirm their suspicions.
As for the boyfriend, she loves him so much and now credits him with saving her life. He's her "Hero". Truth be told, I'm grateful to him for making the call. I will never take that away from him. They explain away the EMS personnel incident as they didn't hear the door for a few minutes and then he was trying to run down the stairs while they were trying to run up and since the stairs are narrow, he couldn't get out of the way. It could have happened that way. I'm in the process of trying to get the official reports. The police report won't help much, as he's convinced her they're lying. Not mistaken, lying. Two weeks ago, she recognized this as part of his paranoid delusions. The EMS report, I'm hoping, will answer a lot of questions. My sister wants to get her hands on the 911 recording, to prove to everyone how upset her boyfriend was when he called. Again, it's possible. There's no doubt he loves my sister. But until we find proof of what happened either way, the doubts will sit in our minds and hearts. If he's still around longterm after this, that could cause problems, so I really need to get this info.
My youngest niece has told her mother that if the boyfriend were in treatment and taking his medications, she would have no trouble having him live with them. Until then, she wants him gone. My oldest niece isn't talking. Mum's looking into counselling for them. They saw my sister yesterday and are going again tomorrow. Mum says she's positive in attitude, which is a good thing. She's also looking for phone calls, so I'm calling today. I'm not going to push the boyfriend issue. She needs to believe in him right now. That may or may not change later, but right now he's important and I don't want to jeopardize any improvement by trying to argue with her about it. Mum feels the same way about it.
Anyway, things are more positive today. This is good.
Warm hugs,
