Steve, this is neither inappropriate, nor boorish. My sweetie is of the same mind. Problem is that right now, she's convinced she needs him. When she's a little more removed and had more counselling, we'll address it with her.
In the meantime, I am in the process of trying to get the facts as we know them in some kind of order. I've been researching whom in our government is the best person to start with. I figure the Attorney General and Minister of Health, with cc's to the Premier, the ex Minister of Health and Deputy Premier (those last are one and the same person). Mum and I have made sure that anyone in authority of any kind who's been involved knows the boyfriend's history (including the doctors at the facility my sister is at (where, coincidentally, the boyfriend has also been in treatment in the past - found that out from the police) and the fact that he's just been deemed mentally incapable of governing his own treatment, and that he's appealing and out of hospital pending that appeal. The police told my sweetie that they have a file on him going back at least 18 months in that district, because of all his calls to them prompted by his paranoid delusions. They are also aware of my sister's involvement and that she's protecting him right now. The officer my sweetie and stepdad spoke to out and out stated that he must be got away from her, but unfortunately, she has to be the one to do it. They have no legal grounds.
I'm also trying to get the official police and EMS reports. The police were very clear about what happened, but since my sister has fallen for her boyfriend's take on how the police are lying (part of his paranoid delusions - they are against him because they didn't go out and arrest the people he's convinced have been following him - there's no-one to arrest, because they don't exist, but he doesn't believe them) I want evidence from the EMS people.
In the meantime, my sweetie wants to be Bruno (or Lenny). We all feel the same way, but we fear it would do my sister harm right now. She's convinced he saved her life and he is now her hero. He knows how Mum, the girls and I feel by the way. You should have seen the looks and stony silence he got from us at the hospital and then at her house afterward. The women in our family have a look that's passed (I swear it's genetic) from generation to generation. We're all born able to do it and it leaves no question as to what we think when we use it. He got it from all four of us last Sunday and my sweetie would not allow him access to the house while the girls, Mum and I were in it.
Steve, you said what needed to be said. You said what we've all been feeling. I treasure that. Kevin and Allan, I'm with you. And I so appreciate you backing Steve up on this. You are all simply being the good friends you are.
Everyone here is. You have no idea how grateful I am.
Love and hugs,
