Kat,
I would move toward your sister with a firm hand, let her know that you will see about getting her kids if she doe snotleave this man.. The problem in your family is her thinking, not his. Until they are married/ or by law connected, dump the rat, and let her know now is the time to get well for her own sake.
Personally I would make no threats, or make a written statement, unless of course you want to be connected to him for years. What ever is written is a matter of the court and is evidence you name is then public. I have gone through that andit is not fun to give such tesitmony, expecially if she is not ready. Treat her, avoid him. I would not wiat until she is well, sounds like she will just have more itme to get more attached.
I know I am a lone wolf, but i would have nothing to do with him. He will kill her next time. Just put the pressure on her..
The more time you give her to get well, the more she will pull away from what is normal..
Ah, what the heck do I know. I do love ya, I know you are trying. If I were there, make no threats, but indeed step on his feet ...
His illness may be permanent, but it sounds like she is rational. Deal with her. Come on tiger, lead her to safer ground, you can do this. Fight for her and those kids! Sometimes we are dealing with a power that may be unknown to us, so empty yourself of all averace and malice before trying to talk to him, ok?
Last edited by Lon; 09/25/09 02:07 AM.
