I'm sorry it isn't the result that you wanted. But, you adapt and overcome. When I was medically discharged without a hope of employment nor a clear understanding of what was going on with my body (the army downgraded all health issues and didn't acknowledge many) I didn't get but a pittance to survive on.
I've moved my folks into my house and we all help each other. Not ideal but what was best considering everything. We all have doors we can slam if we get pissed off-and we do at times
I couldn't handle the drive to their property nor all the chores I would have had to do once I got there.
We are on limited resources with limiting health concerns. But, pooling or limited resources we all give into a household account that takes care of the house bills and we save enough for a few life perks. We, also, arranged wills and insurance to enable the survivors to pay off the house and arrange whatever assistance they may need at that time or in the future.
If you can tolerate some people who may be in a similar situation as you but with different disabilities, perhaps you can set up a roommate situation like we created. Our different disabilities allow the other person's strengths to shine thru. And each of us keep more independence than having a carer come in because each of us get to help someone else.
