Elmer, here's the thing. There's a reason that on flights they advise parents to put the oxygen masks over their own faces before doing their children's. You can look after your daughter, but if you expire for lack of oxygen before safety arrives, then where will she be?
Look after yourself.
Your mother may or may not want to leave your father. Only she knows that and as an adult woman that is her decision. It's up to her whether or not she leaves your father. What if she's staying so that she can protect you? And here you are fearing she will leave him if you move out. What if she does? That's her choice, and it's between your father and mother to sort out.
Your daughter is your daughter and you love her. If she's living there, why can't she move with you?
Elmer, you're finding all kinds of reasons not to look after yourself the way you've indicated you need to. So, why not make a 'pros and cons' list.
As to your father, relationships with our parents are complex at their best. Sounds like you have some issues to deal with regarding your father. You will have to come to grips with this whether you continue living with him or not. But if these are relationship-altering issues, then it's far better to sort them out now, while he's alive. Trust me. You don't want to be facing that after he's dead. Ever so much more difficult.
So, there's my $10 worth! I hope some of it helps.
Love and warm hugs,
Last edited by Inanna; 01/19/15 02:10 PM. Reason: stupid missing apostrophe
